Tuesday, April 26, 2011

The weekend

This past weekend was Easter, but we didn't do ANYTHING special ... and I loved it. Actually, I was sort of surprised at how much of a holiday it was! Everyone was taking off work, all the stores were closed - Target, the mall, and even Publix (!). Now I know that sounds awful coming from someone like me - a solid Christian who obviously understands the meaning of Easter - but it was just a surprise and sort of weird. I guess now that I'm on my own it felt kinda random.

I remember Easter's as a kid and mom always giving us our basket of candy before we'd get dressed up in flowery dresses and special shoes and hairstyles, then head off to church for the special service. It was always a big production. Sometimes we'd have a special meal and have family over.

I posted on Facebook a few days before that I "felt" like I should be doing something special... like going to church or cooking a special meal. But, even as I wrote that, I knew I wouldn't. We have no family nearby and I really just didn't feel the need to do what everyone else does, or what is "normal". I'm really just enjoying our life as it is right now, and making our own rules and traditions. I don't like (never have, never will!) conforming to what others think I should do. Should I cook ham on Easter, get a special spring dress, and go to church? Depends on who you ask. And if you ask me, I say if that's your tradition, then great. But for now, and at least until we have kids, we didn't , and probably won't, do anyyyything.

So you know what I did on Easter? I slept in, bought a book, and washed my car.

And it was great.

I wanted to do some shopping -  was looking for some long shirts and leggings - but since all the stores were closed, I drove around and found a Barnes & Noble open, so I happily spent almost 2 hours perusing the shelves. My husband is lucky I didn't come out with the new Nook Color (which I'm dyinng for) - I was good and will patiently wait until my birthday in July when he'll buy me one. ;) I was,however, looking for a good book to read on vacation this coming week.

I decided upon this:

Yes, the highly controversial book about the fate of all mankind. The book that your pastor has probably told you not to read. In fact, as I was buying it, the cashier lady said, "It's funny, last week in church my pastor was all like 'Don't buy this book!'" Ironic, because how is one expected to form their own opinion if they don't read something themselves? Are they to simply (naively) believe the "opinion" they hear from their pastor? I'm sorry, but I don't operate that way. I will not form an opinion unless it is based on facts that I have read myself. And that requires reading the damn book for yourself, people.

"It is a capital mistake to theorize before one has data. Insensibly, one begins to twist facts to suit theories instead of theories to suit facts."

(Sherlock Holmes aka Sir Conan Doyle)

So, on vacation (starting TOMORROW! YAY!) I will read this and hopefully come back with my own opinion, based off of data that I've actually read. I try to do that - form my own opinion/tradition/belief - in all aspects of my life... from Easter traditions to theories eternal life.

See ya in a week blog friends! :)

Friday, April 22, 2011

Fabulous Friday



Leaving for this little haven for a week on Wednesday...


Fabulous weekend at home with the hubby!
Happy Friday!

Wednesday, April 20, 2011

Quote of the day

‎"...There is something you must always remember:
You are braver than you believe,
stronger than you seem,
and smarter than you think."

-- A.A. Milne

Monday, April 18, 2011

Thank you for being my friend

Have you ever thanked your friends for being, well...your friends? I find more and more that true friends are hard to come by, and even harder to make last. How many times I have met someone, only to find out in a few months (or years) down the road they they are not, and never were, a true friend. Or, worse, that someone who was once your true friend has slowly drifted apart, and poured salt on the wound by befriending someone new.

I must say, I've been struggling with this for some time. I have self-diagnosed myself with a combination of hightened self-awareness and too much busyness. I say self-awareness because as I get older, I find my standards have changed. I become less superficial. I care more about my family than friends. My friends have to think the same way in order to be my friend. But see, if they do have the same beliefs and standards, those priorities won't get in the way.

I also expect honesty and sincerity from my friends, only because I can't help but be the same way. If I see someone is mistreating you - no matter what your relationship with that person - I will tell you. If the basis of our relationship is based on anything other than truth, it can only last so long.

I recently had a friend's husband, who we were previously friends with, delete me on facebook because I'm being honest with his wife (my friend) about how he treats her. It is wrong, and I told her so. I think she needs to do something about it, and he doesn't like that very much. I don't care. Do I fear that this tension will soon jepordize my relationship with her? Yes. Is it worth it? Absoutely.

I refuse to compromise my standards and ethics out of fear. 

I've learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them. I've learned that no matter the consequences, those who are honest with themselves, get farther in life.

Thank you for being my friend.

Wednesday, April 6, 2011

New love.

I stumbled across this blog today. It's the kind of blog that inspires you in the deepest part of who you are. It's who I want to be. I browsed for about 10 minutes and was nearly in tears. It just stuck that chord in my heart that I needed today. I've been needing that for a while.

I found this song on there and am now playing this entire album on Grooveshark. Listen.

That Girl in Pearls. Browse and fall in love.

I fell in love. I can't explain it. I'm officially inspired.

All too often I get caught up in the business and nonstopness of life when all I really want to do is sit outside, stare at the clouds and listen to music like this. Turn off the Lady GaGa and Katy Perry for a while - I need soul time. I want to be an inspiring person, sometime who someone else wants to be like.

I'm changing my attitude. Now. Expect changes to this blog... coming soon!

“Don't underestimate the value of Doing Nothing, of just going along, listening to all the things you can't hear, and not bothering.”
~A.A. Milne

Monday, April 4, 2011

Anniversary trip

I'm pretty much excited that we have FINALLY (almost) planned our 3rd anniversary trip! We are going to the Blue Ridge Mountains in Georgia with our in-laws to stay in a cabin for the week!

It looks gorgeous and sooo relaxing. We're staying in a cabin called "Watersound" which is right along a beautiful river.

I will feel better once all the details are worked out and Eric has his time off approved. His Sergeant said no problem, just have to write down the dates specifically. Also I have to figure out the dog situation, get things squared away with my job (the timing isn't exactly ideal as we have a lot going on -- but then again, when is it convenient to your boss for you to take vacation? :) and come up with our half of the cost, but other than that, I'm ready to go! LOL :)

Happy Monday!